Hugs lady. I feel ya.

I constantly think about how lame my blog is compared to other people our age who have kickass blogs and unmistakeable voices. They’re writing inspirational stuff in every post, and I’m writing about cat pee. I envy their way with words. At the same time though, I don’t want to commit to the kind of online presence some of them have. I would feel so much pressure to produce and perform, and for me that makes it not worth the notoriety.

I got back from my honeymoon last night and was completely disconnected for the entire trip. It was amazing what a difference it made in both my happiness and my attention to the present moment. I was completely absorbed in spending every minute with my husband and totally forgot all about a certain technology conference taking place in Texas. Needless to say, I strengthened the connection to the one person who means more to me than anyone and could care less about the social media “echo chamber”.

While on my trip, I read Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Happiness Project, and two of her points kept jumping out at me. Be you. And remember that what makes other people happy is not necessarily what will make you happy. I think both of these beliefs might help you in rediscovering your mojo.

Looking forward to meeting you in real life and fwiw, I vote for more posts on design.

Love you.

and it took me having a non-smart phone for 6 months to break me of tweeting and fbing all the damn time.

it depends on why you write. maybe you should get a journal and write in that until you decide why it is that you want to have a blog. clearly, you need to write on a regular basis, but what you want to share to the world, may be something different. perhaps you should think about an interior design blog, if that is your passion.

but remember, you don’t need a blog to define yourself. you don’t need a blog to be someone unique.

I am struggling with this so much right now-I started my blog on a whim, as a way to share the lil things I love and the crazy situations I get into. I never ever imagined it would turn into what it is now, and while I love it, sometimes I find myself with nothing to blog about because I’m not truly LIVING as I was before. I’m updating/commenting/emailing/twittering/facebooking…”connecting” to the point of becoming disconnected.

My blog is a part of my income now and so many amazing opportunities have come from it-but I need to remember to live in the moment, to actually LIVE. And I hate to admit it, but that Miley quote hit my heart.

xo

I think with me, it’s somewhat of a catch 22. Now, my livelihood depends on how active I am in the online space – it’s how I find clients, how clients find me, and ultimately how I put food on the table and pay the rent. So in that regard, I feel like I sort of HAVE to stay engaged, even when I want to back away.

With that being said, there still has to be a balance – and I’m understanding and appreciating that much more now than ever. I force myself to back off – especially on the weekends. Almost a total disconnect. I see so many people who are ALWAYS active, ALWAYS engaged and talking and it’s crazy to me. Like, what did these people do before Twitter, Facebook, Myspace, etc? We all need to take a deep breath and step away more often.

Thanks for this post. You have to do what’s best for you – and your clearly doing it. Rock on Ash!